Hook Up Town!

Suddenly I am starting to get an impression that a lot of places are turning into Hook Up Towns. People have their own hidden agenda for dating which often times they fail to communicate directly to their dates.  Most wish to skip the process of conventional dating and take you home on the first date (not to meet their parents, of course!)  If you have been on the receiving end of such frivolous dating behavior and you are unhappy about it, it is time to walk away. 

At the risk of being politically incorrect, mostly it is the guys who wish to date in the fast lane.  There may be some women as well (I just don't know them; perhaps a man could blog about that).  No matter the gender, people who just want to hook up fast and then unhook even faster want instant results; they want to see if you comply to their requests or not? They want to know whether you will do as they say?  If you do, they are happy, if you don't they find a way to disappear on you (which is actually a blessing in disguise).   

Whatever happened to conventional dating? Whatever happened to the old world charm? The flowers, the chocolates, the endless conversations, the brush of love, the butterflies in the stomach...  I am for sure not feeling any butterflies in my stomach while out with the instant pick-me-up wannabe's. 

Has modern day dating taken a turn?  Or are people getting commitment phobic?  Or is it that they want to explore all options available and prove that they are players? 

People in the dating world have to understand that it takes time to build relationships.  Rome was not built in a day nor are relationships. Spending quality time together is important in the getting to know process.  The joy of courtship cannot be compensated with instant date n drop attitude. 

There is nothing wrong with hook ups if both parties are on the same page.  However, using deception to hook up with your date is just wrong.  So to those that want to have flings should have the guts to spell out their agenda from the get go. Your dates may walk out on you if they are seeking a serious relationship or they may agree to fling along with you.  Either ways, it saves time and disappointment for both parties.  People are not as simple or straight forward however.  In an ideal world, maybe!  In the real world, not so! 

Having said that, it is imperative to respect your date and not treat them like someone who is supposed to cater to you.  The next time you are on a date, show some friendship, show some kindness and be considerate.  If you are just out for a hook up, at least have the decency to let your date know your thoughts.  Taking someone for a ride or disappointing them with false promises are just distasteful.  

To those who wish to genuinely date someone of substance and wish to avoid future dating setbacks, I suggest it is time to get smarter, recognize the morons faster and move on.  That will save you from unnecessary wastage of time.